Friday, April 18, 2014

It's just a phase

No matter what you're going through in your life, if you can simply breathe and just hold on, it will
One thing I've learned through the years is that life is a series of phases.
When looking at the bigger picture and consider the earth is about 4.54 billion years old, my life wouldn't represent a blip on the radar of time.
Jilda often labels her life phases in haircuts and colors. The photo to the right was taken during a time when an enthusiastic hair stylist convinced her that a shag haircut would be right for her. She realized it was a mistake before she got home. It never looked good to her, but I thought it looked fine.
Unfortunately she did get a poodle cut once, and I can tell you our home was not a happy place until her hair was straight again.
I always kept my hair fairly short but when I was drafted in 1971, Uncle Sam shaved my head as slick as a cue ball. I told myself that when I got out I would wear my hair as I pleased. And I did.
The length of my hair caused friction between my dad and me.
He didn't approve, and I wouldn't change so we didn't talk to each other for a few years.
Thankfully it was a phase, and when I married Jilda in 1974, he was so crazy about her, the he forgave me. She has a way of winning people over.
These days I don't have an option on the length of my hair unless I wanted to let one side get REALLY long and comb it over to the other side.
That's not a phase I'll be going through.


  1. I reflect on this often when I remember my own father's reaction to my son's haircut in his teen years! I remember telling him to relax, it was just a phase and that he wouldn't be wearing it like this forever...probably not even a year! I was right...the next year was a new phase and lasted about as long as the first. My dad started to relax a little then...

  2. Life really is a series of phases, most of which, thankfully, pass! And hairstyles are good markers of time. Sometimes I look at some of my old photos, and can place myself within a particular era. That photo of me with big hair, for example, was obviously taken in the 80s! Very interesting post!

  3. Glad you're not doing the comb-over, Rick. That never works. Being who you are, that works.

  4. Please please please - no comb-over. My hair is going through a phase but it's because I have a husband who just won't accept the fact that his wife is getting old and long hair just doesn't work. Hopefully this is a phase that won't last too long.

  5. I remember my husband getting angry at my son for growing his hair up to his shoulder. Like you said it was a phase and was over after less than a year.

  6. Rick!!!! Your blog looks GREAT! It is SO much easier to read! I love the picture of you and Jilda. I might have had a hair cut like that, too! I never did short though. My hair is still long and straight but white blond now. Gotta love that we can count our years in hair styles. DON'T do the comb over or I will quit visiting....hahahahaha

    1. Anonymous4:10 PM

      You'd lose me, too!!

  7. Phases. Yeah, we all go through them. Some stick for longer than others. I look back at some of my pictures, see my hair, and wonder, "What was I thinking????"

    It was a phase.

    1. And even thinking about phases is a phase, Robin. Or so my late granny told me.

  8. You cut back on the mustache, too. Trendy, or what?

  9. Life definitely is a series of phases... I would love to get past this one... soon.

    I know what you mean about the hair thing, I was never allowed to have long hair when I was growing up, the minute I could grow it I did. I change it up regularly now and I could care less how either one of my children wear their hair, anyway they like it is fine with me...

    Some things are not worth the argument

    I hope you and Jilda have a really nice Easter :)

  10. Thanks, I needed that!

  11. Nice to meet you, Rick. I can certainly relate to the idea of life being a bunch of phases. I don't relate to people who think a particular haircut is important. It's so trivial. I'm more interested in the person behind the inappropriate haircut, provided there's hair to begin with. I was moved my your post. Don't really know why, nor do I can to overanalyze my feelings. What I do know is that Jilda looks just fine in that picture and that life's too short.


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