Saturday, September 07, 2019


We attended a funeral first thing this morning. It was in north Alabama. Jilda read a Facebook post on Wednesday morning that said she was having fairly minor surgery.

That afternoon, one of our mutual friends posted that she died during the surgery. She was three months younger than me.

Her husband seemed to be holding up, but I suspect that he hasn't fully processed what's happened. 

We stood in the receiving line for almost an hour and when we walked out, there was still a line waiting to pay their respects.

I have no point of reference for how to handle this kind of loss.


  1. Rick, Sorry about your wife's friend. That's kind of scary to die from minor surgery. Condolences. Blessings, xoxo, Susie

  2. I don't think there IS a term of reference. My condolences to all who loved her.

  3. A death is always sad. There really is no way to process it. Your emotions take over and you simply have to ride it out. Please accept my sympathy.

  4. I'm so sorry for your sudden loss. Please accept my sympathy to you and Jilda . A sudden death is never easy to process.
    Hugs, Julia

  5. Very sorry for the loss. Wishing peace and comfort for all who knew and loved her.

  6. I cannot say it enough, to me there is NO MINOR surgery, too many variables. I sure hate to hear this.
    On the bright side, YOur color is good, but shows the loss of summer.
    Sherry & jack

  7. I read Jilda's post and my heart goes out to you and her for the loss of your friend. I'm so sorry for her family too. I echo Jack's comment about there being no minor surgery. We had a similar situation on Saturday in our's never easy for the medical staff when the unexpected happens like that. I hope her husband can find comfort from his family and friends in the coming months.

  8. We had the same thing happen here last week. A wonderful man that worked for my brother-in-law. Had cancer but was cancer-free and doing well-got aspiration pneumonia and was gone in 48 hours. Huge wake/funeral. Kind of sad-we see friends our age (and younger) dying and feel so blessed to have the health we have at this age. Hugs- Diana

  9. Oh what a sad thing to happen

  10. Oh so sorry to hear of a loss of one of your friends. It’s hard to process and lots of questions seem to go unanswered. Prayers for those who are suffering.


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